We just realized that we’ve locked ourselves out of the new studio. Both our sets of keys are down there, and we locked the door on the way out. I guess that means no more organizational activity tonight. Whee! In fact, at the moment tonight, when I said to Ted, “We should really get a copy of our studio key so we have a spare,” we were already locked out.
Yesterday we were rear-ended by a woman who was busy looking at some Christmas trees. I am now very glad we own our old tank of a Volvo. We’ll have to fix the tail pipe, but the bumper seems solid and the rest of the car seems fine. She hit us with enough force that the stereo popped out and the glove compartment opened. All three kids started to cry. Her hood was crumpled up and the lights damaged (Hazel has been concerned about her car in the last two nights of highs and lows), but the Volvo showed its worth. As Ted said, “Honda 0, Volvo 1”.
As soon as Ted had pulled over I got out to get Joanna, who was bawling. As the other driver approached I glared at her, but got myself under control while she apologized. It does amaze me how quickly the internal mama bear roars into action. I can feel claws, fur and teeth all close to the skin. At the same time, I know how easy it is to get distracted behind the wheel, how easy it is to make a mistake.
This accident has been in the back of my mind since it happened, and my friends and I have talked about it more than once. I feel that as I get older I am more distractible. And of course with little kids I’m often not getting as much sleep as would be ideal, and my life is so full that it’s hard to find the downtime for peaceful, meditative sessions in which to allow my mind and heart to clear. I think that I have to start treating driving more as though it is a job, something with specific focus, skill, and goal requirements. It’s not something about which to be casual or reflexive. The risks are too great.
Nonetheless, as I said to Hazel this weekend when we talked about what happened yesterday, if we were going to have an accident that was a good one to have: no one was hurt, our car wasn’t seriously damaged, and each driver has insurance. We’ll be able to take care of ourselves and our vehicles.
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Today Hazel and I started the day by having some snuggle time, and then looking through one of my jewelry boxes. She wore a couple of my necklaces that morning, and I wore one I love that I’d forgotten about, a dragonfly that I bought in North Carolina while visiting my mother-in-law, the first time I had met her. I remember delighting in the fireflies that I don’t get to see much any more, living out here in the Pacific Northwest.
And that’s the thing I love most about objet d’art, the things we buy that remind us of people, experiences, places and times in our lives. Picking up the necklace brought back images of houses built back in the 17th Century, conversations between the three of us, seeing the cottage where Ted spent so many summers, and so on. They can be touchstones for us, signposts for memory. And usually they are things whose aesthetic properties we admire, too.
When I was in Hawaii recently I bought myself a pair of earrings and a necklace that I have taken to wearing every day. I realized on that trip that my friend J has a necklace she always wears, something that I enjoy seeing because it has taken on something of who she is, what she likes. That idea appealed to me, and the earrings (tiny turtles) and necklace (star fish) I bought are emblematic of things I love – the sea, the wildlife in our world, and a place where I’ve spent a lot of wonderful hours. Those are things I can use being reminded of every day. And in their turn, they’ll begin to carry something of me with them. I know Hazel loves to see them on me, and the twins sometimes reach up and gently touch the earrings. We all enjoy that.
Thinking about that, I find that I am, for the first time, looking forward to my dress-up time with Hazel. It will be an opportunity to share stories and dreams with her.